Megan has been invited to loads of birthday parties lately. Some from cousins and friends, but mostly from kids from her daycare centre. Hubby and I are in different camps about them. He thinks she should go to them all. I don’t.
It’s not that I don’t want her to attend the parties, it’s just that I don’t have the first clue about who the birthday boy/girl is! Megan will talk about just 1 or 2 kids, so we assume that they are her good friends. However these BFF’s are not the kids inviting her to parties. I’ve specifically asked about the party kids, hoping to elicit a response like, “Yeah we played together all day today”. Instead I get, “Yeah she’s in my room”.
Not only do I not know the kids, but have no idea about the families, the homes or party expectations. Do we stay? Do we go? How do I make small talk with a mum or dad I have never met and will probably never meet again? Am I putting my own social anxieties into a situation that doesn’t need it?
Megan’s birthday is coming up and we hadn’t even considered inviting friends from creche. When there are loads of cousins, mother’s group kids and kids of friends, there isn’t enough room to think any further. But what if these birthday boys and girls don’t have all the kids around that we do. What if creche friends are the only friends they have?
Megan isn’t quite old enough to notice if she doesn’t go to these parties. But is it fair to her to skip over them? How much will they talk about it at creche and she will miss out?
Where do I draw the PARTY line???/